My lovely co-blogger and myself have likely made it very clear that we are millennials. (In case you didn’t know, we’re millennials). (Why is Generation Y lumped in with them, anyway?) (Punctuation on the inside? I’m such a rebel!) (Parentheses party up in this bitch!) (We need to write tipsy more often). Moving on.
The first paragraph is a testament to why everyone should write drunk for the sake of entertainment. At least every once in awhile. Amusing, yes, so I’ll leave it, but I’m glad to be writing the rest of this soberly (at a later date).
Failure is defined as “a lack of success.” This is why I don’t like definitions; they oftentimes don’t get to the heart of what something really means. It’s way too superficial, but that’s a bigger problem with language, I suppose. Still, I’m not here to discuss the nitty gritty details behind how we define words. I wanna look at how these words are treated in our culture (as an American, this discussion will center around American culture, but I think it has value to all people, plus I don’t really consider myself a typical American anyway – international experience for the win)!
Failure is treated like a horrible thing. Something to be avoided at all costs. We (all of us) have to change the perception of failure. It’s not a lack of success, per se, but a temporary stumble in the direction of success. As one of my mentors says, “You either win, or you learn. There is no such thing as losing.”
How many times have you beat yourself up over some loss or failure? Quite a few, I’m willing to guess. That’s not because I think you have low self esteem. It’s that we all, no matter how confident we are, struggle to understand the positive side to fucking up. Hell, I’m guilty of these negative feelings, too, even though I know that failing helps me in the long run.
I’m sure this sounds like a funny thing to claim. Nobody wants to fail. But, failing is learning! Losing is learning! We are fortunate enough to live in a world where failure doesn’t mean death. (Which is directly opposed to how life has been for most of human history, I’d like to point out). So what’s the big deal? You mess up? Move on. Keep pushing. Keep hustling. You’ll get where you wanna go. Don’t just give up because of a setback (or two, or three…or more…). When you fail there are two options (one technically, as there is only one positive of the two choices): 1. Wallow in your own sorrow and blame everyone, or 2. Take responsibility and learn from what happened; that way you can do better next time.
Time to talk about millennials (again?). We are criticized for so many things, so it’s even more important for us to be gritty. Take those failures and turn them into strength. I know I haven’t really “made it” yet, so I’m sure some would say that the advice I’m giving doesn’t mean much. But, I’m trying. And I won’t give up. I wanna make sure you keep pushing, too. Whatever your goals in life are, you can do it!
I believe in you.
Now you need to believe in you.
Failure isn’t flattering, no, but it doesn’t have to be final, either.
Wow, that was overly inspirational (but we all gotta be mushy sometimes)…just get out there and kick some ass!